Free eBooks Becoming Attached: First Relationships And How They Shape Our Capacity To Love Available To Downloads
The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology. In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.
Paperback: 512 pages
Publisher: Oxford University Press; Reprint edition (April 23, 1998)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0195115015
ISBN-13: 978-0195115017
Product Dimensions: 9 x 1.4 x 5.9 inches
Shipping Weight: 1.5 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (86 customer reviews)
Best Sellers Rank: #11,281 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #7 in Books > Medical Books > Psychology > Developmental Psychology #8 in Books > Textbooks > Social Sciences > Psychology > Developmental Psychology #11 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Psychology & Counseling > Developmental Psychology
This review probably won't do this book justice. I'm analytical, Master's Degree in Statistics kind of guy, yea, stoic. Psychology. Yea that stuff is for quacks. In graduate school I worked with enough of them trying to squeeze any interpretation out of their "data".So I have one of those life altering experiences. I go to Iraq as a reservist, spend sixteen months away from my wife and job, come back to a wife that doesn't love me anymore and doesn't know if she can. PTSD, Generalized Anxiety, and Depression all in one. But other than the PTSD symptoms, all of the other things have constantly been in my life working mysteriously in the background.I go to a shrink as my marriage has fallen apart and I have no one to talk to and she brings up Attachment. I have never heard of it, so the scientist in me wants to learn anything and everything before our next meeting. I next day this book and begin reading "my life away" online and in the book. Or more apropriately "reading my life back." I'm fitting into this mold that is everything I don't want to be, but am and jealous of the mold that is everything that I am not, I'm being divorced by a woman that has been hardening my mold for the last 5 years. This book altered my perspective on so many things. I identified with so many others. It gave me a framework and definitions for defense mechanisims like (passive agressiveness and sublimation), a way to look at my childhood, and although the odds are against me being Ambivalently Attached and seeking Secure Attachment, I can now somewhat accurately "self-reflect" on my life experiences.
Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love A Tear And A Smile: "If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were." Me & The Other Women: Stories of Female Relationships That Shape Our Lives Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives Get In Shape With Exercise Ball Training: The 30 Best Exercise Ball Workouts For Sexy Abs And A Slim Body At Home (Get In Shape Workout Routines and Exercises Book 2) Understanding Girls with ADHD, Updated and Revised: How They Feel and Why They Do What They Do The 100 Best Business Books of All Time: What They Say, Why They Matter, and How They Can Help You The Big Book of Real Helicopters "How They Work * What They Do * Where They Fly" (Big Treasure Books) Defeating ISIS: Who They Are, How They Fight, What They Believe The Little Book Of Solitaire: More Than Fifteen Versions Of The Classic Card Game Complete Deck Of Cards Attached Strings Attached Horses Don't Lie: What Horses Teach Us About Our Natural Capacity for Awareness, Confidence, Courage, and Trust The Developing Mind, Second Edition: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are Stepparenting: Becoming A Stepparent: A Blended Family Guide to: Parenting, Raising Children, Family Relationships and Step Families - 2nd Edition (Raising ... Kids, Blended Families, Blended Family) In-Law Relationships: The Chapman Guide to Becoming Friends with Your In-Laws Hidden Worldviews: Eight Cultural Stories That Shape Our Lives Polyamory: The Practical Dater's Guide to the Pursuit and Maintenance of Open Relationships **FREE BONUS BOOK** (Polyamory, Polyamorous, Relationship, ... Polyamory Dating, Open Relationships) The Karma Queens' Guide to Relationships: The Truth About Karma in Relationships Routing, Flow, and Capacity Design in Communication and Computer Networks (The Morgan Kaufmann Series in Networking) Guerrilla Capacity Planning: A Tactical Approach to Planning for Highly Scalable Applications and Services
