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Fear can't help you in a dangerous situation. A former FBI profiler shows you what can. As one of the world's top experts on psychopathy and criminal behavior, Mary Ellen O'Toole has seen repeatedly how relying on the sense of fear alone often fails to protect us from danger. Whether you are opening the door to a stranger or meeting a date you connected with online, you need to know how to protect yourself from harm-physical, financial, legal, and professional.Using the SMART method, which O'Toole developed and used at the FBI, we can confidently know how to: Respond to a threat in any situation  Hire someone who will work inside your home like a contractor or housekeeper  Figure out whether a prospective employee is a safe bet  Know whom you can trust with your children  An especially useful book for women living alone, parents who are concerned about their children's safety, and employers worried about employees who might go postal, Dangerous Instincts gives us the tools used by professionals to navigate potentially hazardous waters. Like The Gift of Fear and The Sociopath Next Door, it will appeal to anyone looking to make the right call in an ever threatening world.
Paperback: 288 pages
Publisher: Plume; Reprint edition (September 25, 2012)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0452298520
ISBN-13: 978-0452298521
Product Dimensions:  5.3 x 0.6 x 8 inches
Shipping Weight: 7.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
Average Customer Review:  3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (117 customer reviews)
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This book is eye-opening. Many of things that we rely on to make decisions about other people are completely flawed. In short, our instincts are often wrong. It's frightening once you realize how "off" they really are. O'Toole offers a complete guide to changing how you think, evaluate others, and make everyday decisions which could have potentially devastating consequences. She provides excellent tips for how to evaluate people, interview people (such as for a job as a nanny or babysitter, or even as a painter), and how to read them. The 'rules' we have been taught to follow are often wrong and can often lead us into danger, and O'Toole points out all of the ways we open ourselves to danger.I really appreciate the advice in this book, which helps you get inside your own decision-making process and retool it so that it will protect you and your family. This is also just a great read if you ever wondered about serial killers and psycopaths. O'Toole is an expert and offers fascinating vignettes about the criminals she personally worked with, as well as cases she worked on involving missing children. Be sure to read the section that compares how TV profilers do things versus how REAL profilers do things. It's revealing!Some reviews have focused on the serial killer aspect. O'Toole is not telling us how to avoid serial killers (which are rare), but instead how to spot anyone who poses potential danger - especially things like theft, assault, breaking and entering, and other common crimes. In short, this is a primer for learning to be a better evaluator of others.This is an important book for everyone to read, but I also think it ought to be required reading for young people heading off to college or to their own apartments. I will make sure my own daughter reads this book.
This book is really eye-opening. It's only a 1 in 8 million chance that a serial killer will come to your door, but clearly the chance you will meet, date, or work with a criminal or dangerous person is much higher than that. I don't really worry about being hacked into pieces or locked in a basement dungeon, but I think we all know someone who has been attacked, swindled, physically or emotionally abused, etc. because they or someone else didn't see the warning signs.I've certainly let strangers in my house on the basis of a uniform or a friendly voice, and I usually put a lot of trust in my first impression when meeting someone. But this book shows you a lot of simple things you can do that will give you insight into what's really going on. I'm pretty easy-going and certainly won't use all the advice the authors give, but there's a lot of useful stuff in there. And just in case Ted Bundy shows up at my door, I'm a little more prepared!
If you are curious about whether crime shows on television are accurate in their portrayal of FBI profilers and why you should not rely on gut feelings, get yourself a copy of Dangerous Instincts. The author, a retired profiler, shares tips on how to stay safe and mitigate risk. I run an inn on Cape Cod. I picked up Dangerous Instincts thinking the book might provide insight on ways to scope out strangers, in this case, our guests. We receive people we don't know all the time. They knock at the door. I open it and welcome them inside. What we have in common is a prior engagement, an appointment, a set meeting. But I have already decided from earlier contact, often an exchange of several emails, whether a person is someone I want in my house or not. Yes, I choose them based on gut feelings. There is no other way to do it. While psychopaths could visit the inn, usually there are people here, like my husband, which does not present the ideal scenario for any serious wrongdoing. Still, as I was reading, it occurred to me that my younger self could have really used this book. I have not met any psychopaths, but at least one pathological liar did cross my path and influence my life. My elder daughter would have been made better choices of men to date if she had read Dangerous Instincts. I'm going to get a copy for my daughter-in-law, who is always worrying about sex offenders in her neighborhood. She will love the Resource List. I found the chapter about interviews particularly worthwhile and came away knowing to pay attention to what is not said. This book provides no-nonsense advice on how to stay safe in life. I came away with a better understanding of the behavior of both strangers and intimates.
As a retired police officer, I found this book to contain alot of excellent advice for the average person, who in my experience, is usually far too trusting and naiive. Not that I am perfect myself. In spite of my knowledge and experience, I have let my guard down and put myself in potentially dangerous situations. This book is a great reminder of how vulnerable we all can be, and of what horrors really do go on in the world.The opening chapter grips you with an account of a sexual sadist who was featured on an epsiode of Law and Order. I remember the episode well. It was one of the most disturbing ones I ever watched. Knowing it really happened, and how the monster appeared so "normal" on the surface, is terrifying.I am a firm believer that none of us really every "know" anyone, in the purest form of the word, other than ourselves. The book emphasizes how the most dangerous people are usually the most normal, friendly and harmless.The downside is that I think most people will continue to think "It will never happen to me". I found as an officer, and as a mother, that people just don't want to be told anything. They know better, especially today with the younger set. So how many people will do more to protect themselves after reading this book is anyone's guess.I noticed that one reviewer commented on the author's tooting her own horn about her work and ability. I saw a bit of this but can easily forgive it. Thank God there are people who can do her work and sit down face to face with the Devil. I couldnt which is one of the reasons I retired early.I commend her for her work, and for writing this book. I am sending it to my daughter next. Maybe she will listen to Mary Ellen since she wouldn't listen to her cop mom all that much...lol
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